Let’s Talk about Sex(ual Wellness) & Spiritual Health
For the month of February, I will be talking about all things sexual wellness. This includes sexuality and the energy types, practicing sovereignty, and intimacy's immediate connection to the divine.
Let’s Talk about Sex(ual Wellness) & Spiritual Health.
When it comes to Spiritual Health, we always think of the connection between mind, body, and spirit. Typical “wellness industry” culture today highlights mental, physical, spiritual, and emotional well-being, which, of course! But I hate to say it; even the wellness industry seems to put the “taboo” label on sex. While I recognize that sexual wellness falls under various pillars of health, I believe it needs to be talked about as its own category.
Simply put, sexual wellness IS wellness.
I’m not just talking about having sex as a form of exercise; having a healthy sex life is highly empowering. Often sex brings a lot of shame; Even in some of my most immediate friend groups, sex is just not a topic that regularly gets initiated. And it should be!
In many religious practices, we are taught very early on that sex has to be after marriage. It’s meant to be with one person forever until death does us part. Purity in young women was praised not only by adults but by other young women. How often did we find ourselves whispering about the girls that “put out” in high school or had a “high body count” in college?
I know this will make many people see me in a different light or want to unfollow my content, and I am okay with that. I love sex, and I have always loved it. However, my relationship with it was not always healthy, and it brought on a lot of shame and guilt.
I stumbled upon adult content when I was too young, and although it was startling, it piqued my curiosity. I am a Scorpio, after all. Once I started having sex as a teenager, I found it incredibly exciting. I was always looking for ways to find pleasure and enjoyment from it. Yet there was still a massive stigma around it as I was obviously not married and a practicing Catholic.
As I got older, sex started to make me question my relationship with myself. In my early adulthood, I wasn’t coupled up with a partner and found myself in these long “situationships” which made me feel like I was not worthy of a real relationship. After my mom passed away in 2018, I withheld myself from hookups because my grief was very overpowering and left me telling myself I was not worthy of physical love. I had also gained a lot of weight and felt extremely uncomfortable with how my body looked.
It was not until a few months ago that I realized how amazing and empowering it can be to embrace my sexuality. I fully appreciate the intimate connection between myself and the partners I have chosen (because *I* get to choose who I can share my space with). I also LOVE my body more than I ever have in my entire life, even with my current weight being much higher than I ever wanted it to be. I wake up (almost) every day and say, “Wow. I’m sexy.” I am also now entirely vocal about sexual wellness in hopes that it can help someone heal their relationship with sex and affirm more pleasure and joy for themselves.
So when we talk about wellness, we HAVE to talk about sexual wellness, too.
Throughout the rest of this month of love, I will release content across my social media about sexual wellness. Some topics will be hard to digest, but I firmly believe as someone who has transformed my relationship with sex that, I owe it to others to educate them on how amazing and empowering taking control of their sexual health can be for their overall well-being.